We all know that our personalities affect our behaviour. This is what forces a shy person not to speak much when he meets new people and this is why A confident person finds no problem in expressing himself. As you see, your personality can affect your behaviour but do you know that your behaviour could affect your personality?
For instance, if you never fought for your rights or said NO to someone when he asks you a favor then this will negatively affect yourself image and so in turn it will reduce your self-confidence. This happens because the subconscious mind watches out for every action that you take in order to alter your self confidence based on it!!
Stop the Self-reinforcing Cycle
Now it is clear that your behaviour can reinforce a certain belief you have about yourself or even make it worse. You can take advantage of this fact by forcing a change in your current behaviour and by Doing this you will break this self-reinforcing cycle of personality-behaviour and vice versa.
For example,if you are used to avoid saying NO when someone asks you for something then start to act in an assertive way and stand up for your rights. This will result in one of the following two outcomes:
- Breaking the cycle: breaking the self-reinforcing cycle will in turn stop further deterioration of your self confidence.
- Changing your idea about yourself: Your continuous way of acting in an assertive or confident manner will slowly erode your negative beliefs about yourself. This happens because your subconscious mind starts to receive lots of new feedback that defies your negative beliefs about yourself and so in the end you will end up being more self-confident.
This goes for every single behaviour
This goes for almost everything. If you got used to cry whenever you face a problem you will end up thinking that you are fragile. Similarly, if you got used to blame the conditions and the circumstances for your failures you will end up believing that you are a victim. The flip side of that is when you get used to act in a confident way you will end up thinking of yourself as a self-assured person.
Even in breakups, the continues repetition of certain behavior like listening to romantic songs, crying while listening to them and acting like a victim completely hinders the recovery process.